Hi guys! I love your podcast! I just listened to your episode on gender role/identity. I found some of your comments on the male and female gender identities very interesting. I am a crossdresser/transvestite. I don't say transgendered because I don't feel like I was "born in the wrong body" nor do I have any desire to transition. I am happily married (to a woman, lol) with kids. We have dabbled in kinky play a lot, and recently developed into a Female Led Relationship. We aren't quite 24/7, but close. She is my Dominant and I am her submissive. In day to day life at work and such, my personality is mainly masculine. When at home it's about 50/50. At times we are the "normal" married couple, but the D/s in our lives has become a much bigger part of it. I am locked in a chastity cage almost 24/7, and it was pretty much the catalyst that began our path down the FLR road. I find that being locked in chastity and not having the ability to masturbate any time I have an urge, and my orgasm being controlled by her really has an effect on my submission. I am much more focused on her pleasure and her needs, even non-sexually. On my days off from work I usually play the role of the housewife, dressing the part, taking care of the house, and having dinner ready when she gets home. Both of our kids are under 2 and go to daycare so they don't affect any of this at the moment.
Anyway....now that there's a little background, here's the point, lol. We are also swingers. Now in my everyday life, I don't consider myself bisexual. I'm just not attracted to men. I don't walk through a mall and check out guys. But in a submissive role, I have no gender preference. Dressed as a male in a swinging encounter, I have had difficulty enjoying playing with the other male. However, when in femme mode, I'm all about it. Going to some kinky clubs in the area as my femme persona, I do check out guys as well. I feel like in submission, gender has no bearing. I haven't really looked into this much to see if a lot of other people feel the same, but it is how I feel. Hearing Step say that in a male encounter, he would like to be the one being pursued was interesting as I felt there was a parallel to the way I feel when my feminine personality is the one taking over.
Hi guys! I love your podcast! I just listened to your episode on gender role/identity. I found some of your comments on the male and female gender identities very interesting. I am a crossdresser/transvestite. I don't say transgendered because I don't feel like I was "born in the wrong body" nor do I have any desire to transition. I am happily married (to a woman, lol) with kids. We have dabbled in kinky play a lot, and recently developed into a Female Led Relationship. We aren't quite 24/7, but close. She is my Dominant and I am her submissive. In day to day life at work and such, my personality is mainly masculine. When at home it's about 50/50. At times we are the "normal" married couple, but the D/s in our lives has become a much bigger part of it. I am locked in a chastity cage almost 24/7, and it was pretty much the catalyst that began our path down the FLR road. I find that being locked in chastity and not having the ability to masturbate any time I have an urge, and my orgasm being controlled by her really has an effect on my submission. I am much more focused on her pleasure and her needs, even non-sexually. On my days off from work I usually play the role of the housewife, dressing the part, taking care of the house, and having dinner ready when she gets home. Both of our kids are under 2 and go to daycare so they don't affect any of this at the moment.
ReplyDeleteAnyway....now that there's a little background, here's the point, lol. We are also swingers. Now in my everyday life, I don't consider myself bisexual. I'm just not attracted to men. I don't walk through a mall and check out guys. But in a submissive role, I have no gender preference. Dressed as a male in a swinging encounter, I have had difficulty enjoying playing with the other male. However, when in femme mode, I'm all about it. Going to some kinky clubs in the area as my femme persona, I do check out guys as well. I feel like in submission, gender has no bearing. I haven't really looked into this much to see if a lot of other people feel the same, but it is how I feel. Hearing Step say that in a male encounter, he would like to be the one being pursued was interesting as I felt there was a parallel to the way I feel when my feminine personality is the one taking over.