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Tuesday, 12 May 2015
Free the Nipple Campaign
The Free the Nipple Campaign is something that Step and I strongly support and believe in.
From the Wiki page - Free the Nipple is an equality movement focused upon the double standards regarding the censorship of female breasts started by activist and filmmaker Lina Esco.[1] The campaign is not a crusade that exclusively advocates for women to bare their chests at any and all given times; rather, it seeks to strip society of its tendencies toward the sexualization and oppression of the female upper body, addressing hypocrisies and inconsistencies in American culture and legal systems that enforce its taboos. Ultimately, the campaign resolves to decriminalize female toplessness in the US and empower women across white, western nations in a greater effort toward global gender equality, particularly for white women.
Equality is a very important concept for both of us, and here in Ontario women have the same right to bare their breasts that men do. Unfortunatly, the same can't be said in all places.
We decided to put our money where our mouths are and post photos in support.
From the Wiki page - Free the Nipple is an equality movement focused upon the double standards regarding the censorship of female breasts started by activist and filmmaker Lina Esco.[1] The campaign is not a crusade that exclusively advocates for women to bare their chests at any and all given times; rather, it seeks to strip society of its tendencies toward the sexualization and oppression of the female upper body, addressing hypocrisies and inconsistencies in American culture and legal systems that enforce its taboos. Ultimately, the campaign resolves to decriminalize female toplessness in the US and empower women across white, western nations in a greater effort toward global gender equality, particularly for white women.
Equality is a very important concept for both of us, and here in Ontario women have the same right to bare their breasts that men do. Unfortunatly, the same can't be said in all places.
We decided to put our money where our mouths are and post photos in support.
Friday, 24 April 2015
Being Brave and Honest With Ourselves
Today I am doing something that I never, ever thought I would. I am posting untouched photos of myself in my underwear on the internet. I've spent from the age of 12 until today trying to hide how I look from everyone. I never let anyone post full length pictures of myself, when recording my band playing, I insisted on setting up the camera so it showed the guitarists and not me. I avoided seeing video of me in theatre productions. I only posted well posed photos.
The reason is that I never wanted anyone to know that I was overweight. As a teen, I was incredibly busty and average weight, but being short and wearing baggy cloths, left me looking far heavier than I was, so I had this image of myself as huge. Then I put on weight and I gave up so many opportunities because I thought I was too fat.
Les Miz had auditions in Toronto and I didn't go because I didn't think they would want someone who looked like me. I heard several times when gigging in bars that I had an amazing voice, and 'such a pretty face, if only you'd lose a little weight, you could make it big."
When I made the transition from stage to internet, I continued to hide, I still refuse to be on video for Kink Geek, as I have this voice in my head that says, people will only want to listen to me if I am tiny and gorgeous. I'm sure this sounds silly, or self absorbed to some, and it is, but it's also the way that many people have experienced the world. If you aren't very young, very thin and very beautiful, you just aren't worth as much in society.
The problem with this looks based method of judging peoples worth is that no one can measure up. Those that are overweight aren't the only segment of society to have to deal with this, but this is the category that I find myself in. There are days that I don't even want to leave the house, my anxiety is so bad. I struggle with this daily.
Step and I made a vow to get healthier and we are fighting really hard to do just that. We promised back in January to post these photos as a way of making ourselves accountable and to own up to where we are in our journey. We also thought it might help other people that feel shame because of their bodies. The reason that it's taken until today for it to happen is fear. I'm terrified of being this exposed and of opening myself up to the bullying that I experienced in highschool. To hearing from the world wide web how fat and unattractive I am.
I've decided today to push that fear aside and accept that I am who I am in this moment. Tomorrow I will be better and stronger, and two months from now, even more so, but today- this is where we are.
Thanks for reading,
-Tams
The reason is that I never wanted anyone to know that I was overweight. As a teen, I was incredibly busty and average weight, but being short and wearing baggy cloths, left me looking far heavier than I was, so I had this image of myself as huge. Then I put on weight and I gave up so many opportunities because I thought I was too fat.
Les Miz had auditions in Toronto and I didn't go because I didn't think they would want someone who looked like me. I heard several times when gigging in bars that I had an amazing voice, and 'such a pretty face, if only you'd lose a little weight, you could make it big."
When I made the transition from stage to internet, I continued to hide, I still refuse to be on video for Kink Geek, as I have this voice in my head that says, people will only want to listen to me if I am tiny and gorgeous. I'm sure this sounds silly, or self absorbed to some, and it is, but it's also the way that many people have experienced the world. If you aren't very young, very thin and very beautiful, you just aren't worth as much in society.
The problem with this looks based method of judging peoples worth is that no one can measure up. Those that are overweight aren't the only segment of society to have to deal with this, but this is the category that I find myself in. There are days that I don't even want to leave the house, my anxiety is so bad. I struggle with this daily.
Step and I made a vow to get healthier and we are fighting really hard to do just that. We promised back in January to post these photos as a way of making ourselves accountable and to own up to where we are in our journey. We also thought it might help other people that feel shame because of their bodies. The reason that it's taken until today for it to happen is fear. I'm terrified of being this exposed and of opening myself up to the bullying that I experienced in highschool. To hearing from the world wide web how fat and unattractive I am.
I've decided today to push that fear aside and accept that I am who I am in this moment. Tomorrow I will be better and stronger, and two months from now, even more so, but today- this is where we are.
Thanks for reading,
-Tams
Thursday, 23 April 2015
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